your relationship has to be one of trust. Dont run from hurt or honesty. #1. Understand love odes not collect or throw rocks. take your bag of rocks to the cross. Matt 11:28-30 #2. take inventory...write them down #3. ask Jesus to help forgive. Not forgetting....not dismissing... #4. Evaluate...chunk the rocks not worth remembering. submit and pour love for each other... have to communicate....talk...share.... #5. Address with our spouse one rock at a time.